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PatIrwin Johnston's avatar

This made me think about the recent experience of several years when I became a caregiver for my husband, who recently died. One of the things I noted with great sadness as his condition progressed, was how easy it was for people to simply ignore him, seated in a wheelchair beside me and talk just to me.

It made me so indignant on his behalf! He was there, he was cogent and listening. It might have been difficult for him to pull words to the surface, but he was definitely "in there," understanding every word that was said. I became adept at focusing on him to give him time to reply to the acquaintances and professionals who were instead expecting ME to answer their questions--quickly. This was a person who had led an active and productive life as a medical professional, as a manager, as an active volunteer in his community, as a partner, as a father and grandfather. Talking "about" him rather than "to" him diminished all that he had been, all that he still WAS, and made him an object (of pity, which he did not want) rather than as a living, breathing, human being with feelings!

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Jane Newell's avatar

Hal, the sculptures & your writing, evoke a range of feelings & thoughts not easily expressed. This is likely why the images are so powerful. Being here in India, where I do not speak the language of my students or the masses of people on the streets I travel on or in the stores I've frequented, I experience a kind of not being seen...like a vaper in the crowd. Strangely, it does not bother me, I'm an observer of my - and the - human experience. Equally true, is how effortlessly I can view the room of 72 young women before me as a crowd I "look through" as I painstakeingly make my "point" in a lecture. The imagery calls to me, "Am I looking through them as a collective, and missing each individual soul?" Then the opportunity arises to seek to "see" each one as uniguely themselves - and to honor that I am, too. Thanks, Hal.

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